On a call recently with one of my friends, we were discussing how people can experience the same thing, yet react to it totally differently.
We can only control how we respond to events, I don’t think we have much power to control everything that happens to us.
We can’t stop the rain, but we can see it as an opportunity to spend time with friends and family in a coffee shop or at home. Same event – rain – and a positive response created a good outcome for all involved.
I think this also applies to ‘shoulds’ and that the shoulds don’t map to reality.
Shoulds are things we feel obligated to do but probably never questioned.
When you question these things asking “Is that really the case?” or “What if the opposite was true?”
Question things so you get closer to the truth.
You’ll be surprised what you discover.